Handling Self Improvement
We are not agony aunts, nor uncles for that matter, and we do not purport to have a magic cure that points you in the right direction on every issue.
Even so, the long experience of life itself allows for some well tried remedies to regular problems.
Many will have experiences that they will no doubt want to share. Thus, some will have answers based upon their own experiences.
Often, a small problem can develop into a stressful situation if not ‘swiftly’ dealt with. We are building a database of wide ranging issues, with some ideas on how to find solutions to personal problems.
In fact, personal does not simply mean problems! Development of the ‘self’ is also a very important aspect, and it is essentially personal to you.
So, how can you deal with the aspects of self improvement? Motivation, positive attitudes, getting rid of personal lack of confidence, all require some action of a personal nature.
Common sense usually plays an important part in solving personal problems. Nothing beats communication, for without communication, many problems will never get sorted.
So, go ahead and communicate with others – if and when it becomes possible. This section is for people who are seeking help relating to:
- Personal awareness. Until you become more aware of your personal problems – you cannot help yourself!
- Personal training (and the services of personal trainers).
- Personal career advice and guidance.
- Improving your life: Getting ahead.
- Developing your own personal effectiveness (e.g. at work and in relationships).
- Personal contracts: Making a contract with yourself and holding yourself accountable. What you might call ‘making a personal statement of intent’!
- Health and personal care products, because birthdays, employments, and others all present problems when trying to choose a gift relating to a personal nature.
- Personal security, including personal identity theft, are becoming important issues in modern life and lifestyles.
- Personal dating and decorum – how to find that elusive partner?
Tip: Nothing will ensure success in life more than a good sound personal base. Hence, confidence by itself is not enough. But, without confidence, many aspects of your personal life will be more difficult – if not impossible – to improve.
Personal Skills Training
Skills training is not some fancy term we made up. Yet, some personal trainers often use it to extremes. There is much you can do to train yourself in personal skills that reduces the need for professional advice about life.
Getting your foot on the first rung of the ladder is normally the first step – so to speak. But, you’ll never get to the top, or even halfway, without taking that first step forward and upward.
Most skills developed for personal life are automatically transferred into all other aspects of life.
In most cases, they will include friendship development, relationship success, and of course the gateway to career success.
Setbacks – and we all have them – are the basics of learning! For example, how many setbacks did Edison have before that wretched electric light bulb finally worked?
The answer is ‘many’, and he learned from every single one. He persevered and finally changed the way that we all live. Maybe your own personal success story will not be as awe inspiring to others. But, it might!
Improving Your Life: Getting Ahead
There are two basic ways in which you can go about improving your life. You can simply do nothing and see what happens… or you can do things that will help to improve your health and wellbeing.
But, doing nothing works for many people, and the end result can sometimes be better than taking an active role in trying to better your life.
Both approaches have risks attached to them. But, the risks attached to actively trying to get ahead are usually more manageable than the risks encountered when doing nothing about possible advancement.
Here’s the bottom line:
Actively doing things to better your life should be part of your overall life plan. It should also have a stop gap risk assessment built into it.
If you think you can plan your way forward for anything in life, and nothing will go wrong, there may be several unpleasant surprises waiting for you. To paraphrase a popular saying, ‘some bad things will happen’.
Whereas, the rewards for doing nothing about anything can also be great – if unpredictable. Yet, these particular risks may be greater and often more uncontrollable.
A good example:
Sitting around safe in the knowledge that an ancient relative will leave you a small fortune in the event of their passing away can be a risky proposition.
The main risk is that they could well out-live you. There is little you can do about that. Another, and maybe traumatic outcome, could be that their Last Will and Testament changed in favour of the local dogs home. Hey, it happens!
So whether you are going to take action to better your life, or carry on as normal and see what happens, there are risks. It is far better to plan and have a backup in place. Certainly, a ‘plan B’ and maybe, a ‘plan C’ may be the best solution.
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Note: The main section contains more information about mental health problems to help improve your psychological and emotional wellbeing.